General Parenting
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That’s
Not What I Meant! How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships
Deborah Tannen, Ph.D. |
| Discover the true power of communication. Relationships
are often strained by misunderstanding. This book examines how body language,
tone, and voice
can radically impact your ability to be clearly understood. “It’s
not what you say, but how you say it.” |
What
Children Learn from Their Parents’ Marriage
Judith P. Siegel, Ph.D., C.S.W.
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| Children learn about intimacy and relationships by watching
their parents’ interactions.
Judith Siegel, a family therapist, explains how children’s experience
with marriage can impact their development and self-esteem. |
What
To Do… When Kids Are Mean To Your Child
Elin McCoy |
| This book provides parents with practical, easy to understand tips for
helping their elementary and middle school children deal with bullies.
It provides advice on when to turn to the school for help, how to find
out if your child is being bullied, etc. |
The
Single Mother’s Book: A Practical Guide to
Managing Your Children.
Career, Home, Finances, and Everything Else
Joan Anderson
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| The author facilitates a Single Mothers’ Group and she draws on
her own experiences as a single mom. The book is updated from the original
version published in 1990, and it covers everything from going to court
to taking care of mom’s needs. |
Angry Children, Worried Parents
Sam Goldstein, PhD, Robert Brooks, PhD., Sharon Weiss, M.Ed. |
| This book helps parents understand the causes of anger in children 6-16.
The book designs a program to help children manage angry feelings and behavior.
The authors outline a seven-step program for dealing with the issue of
anger. |
Calming the Family Storm: Anger Management for
Moms, Dads, and All the Kids
Gary McKay,PhD. and Steven A. Maybell,PhD.
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| These authors provide tools for handling anger in all kinds of families,
including single parent families , and step-families. Discover strategies
for : getting anger under control quickly, teaching children how to handle
their anger with each other, and with adults, getting along better even
when you are angry. They also address anger issues related to divorce and
blended families as well as domestic violence and child abuse. |
Stepparenting:
Everything You Need To Know To Make It Work
Jeannette Lofas |
| Here is advice for dealing with the many baffling issues
that beset stepfamilies today. From dating to remarriage, from step-sibling
rivalry to household
rules, this is an invaluable guide to one of society’s most complex
challenges. |
Hearing Is Believing
How Words Can Make Or Break Our Kids
Elisa Medhus, M.D.
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| Parents’ words have a profound effect on their
children. This book shows that making a few simple changes in parenting
language can turn parenting
into a joy rather than the burden it sometimes seems to be! |
Easing the Teasing
Judy S. Freedman, M.S.W., L.C.S.W.
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| This book is a real help to parents who want to give their children pointers
on how to cope with name-calling, ridicule, and verbal bullying. The author
shares through role-playing and relating personal experiences ten strategies
for dealing with teasers that really work. |
“Because I Said So!” Family Squabbles & How
to Handle Them
Lauri Berkenkamp and Steven Atkins, Psy.D. |
| For parents everywhere whose kids complain about helping around the house,
stall over homework, and bicker with one other, help is at hand. With compassion
and humor, this book takes on the most common points of kid-induced friction-those
altercations and annoying behaviors that drive parents crazy. This indispensable
guide offers exasperated parents the emotional support and reassurance
they need to reduce friction and increase communication in the household. |
Making Sense of Adolescence: How to Parent from the Heart
John Crudele, C.S.P and Richard Erickson, Ph.D. |
| "Effective parenting is an exercise in bridging our children from
where they are to where they need to be, while loving them unconditionally
each and every step along the way." Incorporating dozens of heartfelt
letters and personal anecdotes, this reassuring book presents an expert,
comprehensive, and upbeat assessment of adolescent change and turmoil. |
Staying
Connected to Your Teenager: How to Keep Them Talking
to You and How
to Hear What They’re Really Saying
Michael Reiera, Ph.D
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| Family psychologist Mike Riera gives new hope to beleaguered
and harried parents. From moving from a "managing" to a "consulting" role
in a teen's life, from working with a teen's uniquely exasperating sleep
rhythms to having real conversations when only monosyllables have been
previously possible, Staying Connected to Your Teenager demonstrates ways
to bring out the best in a teen-and, consequently, in an entire family. |
Parents, Teens and Boundaries : How to Draw the Line
Jane Bluestein |
| Jane Bluestein, a former teacher and counselor, looks at 20 relationship-building
techniques all parents can use to set limits with their teens. You'll learn
the essential arts of loving, motivating, accepting, negotiating, respecting,
acknowledging, communicating, supporting, empowering, trusting . . . and
much more.
These practical strategies for boundary setting will enable you to avoid
conflict, resolve problems and establish a foundation of mutual love and
respect. |
When Parents Disagree and What You Can Do About It
Ron Taffel |
| "This book is a hands-on, practical guide to understanding
child-rearing differences between parents, and how to work through conflicts
arising
from these. Taffel provides an interesting analysis of the genesis of couples'
disagreements over how to parent children. He also gives clear, unambiguous
advice on how to deal with specific problems common to children at different
stages of development. |
Positive Discipline for Teenagers: Empowering Your Teens and
Yourself
Through Kind and Firm Parenting
Jane Nelsen |
| Everyone knows adolescence opens up vast new interests, problems, and
potential in children. Topics include the difference between normal rebellion
and excessive resistance, how to see the world through your teenager's
eyes, and more. |
Parenting
Teens With Love & Logic:
Preparing
Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood
Foster W. Cline, Jim Fay |
| Foster Cline, M.D., and Jim Fay's "Love and Logic" approach
to parenting teens confronts us with the many challenges facing teens and
their parents. The essence of their technique teaches parents to allow
their children to learn about solving their own problems by setting up
choices and consequences. |
Grounded
for Life: Stop Blowing Your Fuse and Start Communicating
F. Tracy, Louise Felton Tracy
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| If you’re exhausted, frustrated or just plain scared
about parenting teens and preteens, here is a road map from a social
worker and school
counselor who survived the adolescence of her own six children. Louise
Felton Tracy believes both parents and kids do better when the focus switches
to helping teenagers balance their desires with life responsibilities. |
Surviving Your Adolescents: How to Manage and Let Go of Your 13-18 Year
Olds
Thomas W. Phelan Ph.D. |
| A step-by-step approach to handling teenagers, this guide
helps parents end the hassles and improve their parent-teenager relationship.
Parents
learn how to communicate with teenagers, how to manage teenage risk-taking,
how to "let go" in certain situations, and when to seek professional
attention. Concise and encouraging, this resource walks parents through
the ups-and-downs of parenting teenagers as their kids push towards independence. |
Active
Parenting of Teens: Parent’s Guide
Michael H. Popkin, Ph.D.
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| Dr. Popkin sheds light on the immense pressures today’s parents
and teens face and what parents need to known to help their teens survive
and thrive in the 21st century. This Parent’s Guide provides concrete
steps for effectively handling family problems through clear, honest communication
and respectful discipline. This book supplements the Active Parenting of
Teens class. |
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Understanding Adolescents
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Why Do They Act That Way? A Survival Guide to the
Adolescent Brain for
You and Your Teen
David Walsh, Ph.D. |
| David
Walsh used scientific findings to explain how changes in teens’ bodies
and brains affect their behavior, mood, and attitude. Dr. Walsh uses stories
and easy-to-understand examples to guide parents into a better understanding
of why their children act the way they do and how to deal with the changes
that come with adolescence. |
The Manipulative Child: How to Regain Control and Raise Resilient,
Resourceful,
and Independent Kids
E.W. Swihart Jr., M.D., & Patrick Cotter, Ph.D.
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| This
book provides parents with insight into dealing with children who try
to “be in charge” of
their families. Tips for saying no, helping children solve problems on
their own, bolstering
independence,
and taking control of manipulative situations are provided.
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What All Children Want Their Parents to Know: 12 Keys to Raising a Happy
Child
Diana Loomans with Julia Godoy
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| Loomans
and Godoy discuss what children need in order to become positive, well-adjusted
adults, i.e. teach by example, spend quality time daily,
practice true listening, etc. They include stories and activities parents
and children can use together to foster healthy, loving relationships.
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“I’m Like, So Fat!” Helping
Your Teen Make Healthy Choices about Eating
and Exercise in a Weight-Obsessed World
Dianne Neumark-Sztainer, Ph.D.
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| Parents
are provided with strategies for helping their teens deal with the pressures
of overeating and trying to be thin. The
influences of media,
peers, and parents greatly impact adolescents’ eating habits and
body images. Tips for talking with teens about food and weight help parents
challenge their children to make healthy decisions. |
Ex-Etiquette for Parents
Jann Blackstone-Ford, M.A. , and Sharyl Jupe
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| Good behavior after a divorce or separation is a real help to children
in the family. Innovative in its technique, this etiquette book provides
sample scenarios and model conversations to help ex-spouses (and step-parents)
interact on a healthy and civil level. |
Stop Arguing With Your Kids
How to Win the Battle of Wills by Making Your Children Feel Heard
Michael P. Nichols, PhD.
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| Does your child rule your household? This book offers a clinically proven
program for blocking manipulative behavior and getting your children back
on track. |
Get
Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl
to the Mall: A Parent's Guide to the New Teenager
Anthony E. Wolf |
| Anthony E. Wolf's witty and compassionate guide
to raising adolescents gives parents a great roadmap to navigate their
child’s adolescence.
His revised and updated bestseller points out that while the basic issues
of adolescence and the relationships between parents and their children
remain much the same, today's teenagers navigate a faster, less clearly
anchored world. Wolf's revisions include a new chapter on the Internet,
a significantly modified section on drugs and drinking, and an added piece
on gay teenagers. |
Not Much Just Chillin': The Hidden Lives of Middle Schoolers
Linda Perlstein |
| Suddenly they go from striving for A's to barely
passing, or obsessing for hours over "boyfriends" they've barely spoken to. Former
chatterboxes answer in monosyllables; free-thinkers mimic their peers'
clothes, not to mention their opinions. Bodies and psyches morph under
the most radical changes since infancy. On the surface, they're "just
chillin'." Underneath, they're a stew of anxiety and ardor, conformity
and rebellion. They are kids in the middle school years, the age every
adult remembers well enough to dread. No one understands them, not parents,
not teachers, least of all themselves-no one, that is, until Linda Perlstein
spent a year immersed in the lives of suburban Maryland middle-schoolers
and emerged with this pathbreaking account. |
Our Last Best Shot: Guiding Our Children Through Early Adolescence
Laura Sessions Stepp |
| Our Last Best Shot presents the personal stories of twelve girls and
boys from across America. Their stories, and Laura Sessions Stepp's extensive
research, provide real insight for parents trying to raise well-adjusted
children in this difficult age. Filled with wisdom and common sense, based
on cutting-edge research, and featuring an invaluable resource list, this
is a book that parents and educators cannot afford to be without. |
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Adolescent Boys
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Why
Boys Don’t Talk And Why It Matters:
A Parent’s Survival Guide to Connecting with Your Teen
Susan Morris Shaffer & Linda Perlman Gordon |
| Parenting experts explain why adolescent boys go from being outgoing
and talkative to quiet and withdrawn. They provide suggestions for recognizing
the subtle manner in which teenage boys communicate with adults, helping
teenage boys understand and express their feelings, and creating open communication
within the family. |
Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different-And How to Help
Them Become Happy
and Well-Balanced Men
Steve Biddulph, Paul Stanish |
| Explores the development of boys from birth to manhood and discusses
the relationship between sports and values, creating caring attitudes towards
sex, and the role of community and school in raising a boy. |
Raising Cain : Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys
Michael Thompson Ph. D., Dan Kindlon Ph.D. |
| In Raising Cain, Dan Kindlon, Ph.D., and Michael
Thompson, Ph.D., two of the country's leading child psychologists, share
what they have learned
in more than thirty-five years of combined experience working with boys
and their families. They reveal a nation of boys who are hurting--sad,
afraid, angry, and silent. Statistics point to an alarming number of young
boys at high risk for suicide, alcohol and drug abuse, violence and loneliness.
Kindlon and Thompson set out to answer this basic, crucial question: What
do boys need that they're not getting? They illuminate the forces that
threaten our boys, teaching them to believe that "cool" equals
macho strength and stoicism. Cutting through outdated theories of "mother
blame," "boy biology," and "testosterone," Kindlon
and Thompson shed light on the destructive emotional training our boys
receive--the emotional miseducation of boys. |
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Adolescent Girls
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Girls on Track:
A Parent’s Guide to Inspiring Our Daughters to
Achieve a
Lifetime of Self-Esteem and Respect
Molly Barker |
| Parents are given tips on how to help their girls stay
out of the “Girl
Box” where life’s focus is on looks, dating, etc. The “Girl
Box” can lead to such problems as drug and alcohol use, eating disorders,
etc. This book is set up so that parents and teens can read and discuss
the information together. |
Why
Girls Talk and What They’re Really Saying:
A Parent’s Survival Guide to Connecting with Your Teen
Susan Morris Shaffer & Linda Perlman Gordon |
| Parenting experts explain why adolescent girls seem to
be on an “emotional
rollercoaster”. They provide suggestions for better understanding
your teen’s emotions, helping teens become more independent, and
helping teen girls discover their personal interests and goals. |
Reviving Ophelia : Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls
Mary Pipher |
| Why are more American adolescent girls prey to depression,
eating disorders, addictions, and suicide attempts than ever before?
According to Dr. Mary
Pipher, a clinical psychologist who has treated girls for more than twenty
years, we live in a look-obsessed, media-saturated, "girl-poisoning" culture.
Despite the advances of feminism, escalating levels of sexism and violence--from
undervalued intelligence to sexual harassment in elementary school--cause
girls to stifle their creative spirit and natural impulses, which, ultimately,
destroys their self-esteem. Yet girls often blame themselves or their families
for this "problem with no name" instead of looking at the world
around them.
By laying bare their harsh day-to-day reality, Reviving Ophelia issues
a call to arms and offers parents compassion, strength, and strategies
with which to revive these Ophelias' lost sense of self. |
Ophelia Speaks : Adolescent Girls Write About Their Search for Self
Sara Shandler |
| A poignant collection of original pieces selected from more than eight
hundred contributions, Ophelia Speaks culls writings from the hearts of
girls nationwide, of various races, religions, and socioeconomic backgrounds.
Ranging in age from twelve to eighteen, the voices here offer a provocative
and piercingly real view on issues public and private, from body image
to boys, politics to parents, school to sex. Framing each chapter are Shandler's
own personal reflections, offering both the comfort of a trusted friend
and an honest perspective from within the whirlwind of adolescence. |
Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls
Rachel Simmons |
| Dirty looks and taunting notes are just a few examples of girl bullying
that girls and women have long suffered through silently and painfully.
With this book Rachel Simmons elevated the nation's consciousness and has
shown millions of girls, parents, counselors, and teachers how to deal
with this devastating problem. Odd Girl Out puts the spotlight on this
issue, using real-life examples from both the perspective of the victim
and of the bully. |
Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive
Cliques, Gossip,
Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence
Rosalind Wiseman
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| This groundbreaking book takes you inside the secret
world of girls’ friendships,
translating and decoding them, so parents can better understand and help
their daughters navigate through these crucial years. Rosalind Wiseman
has spent more than a decade listening to thousands of girls talk about
the powerful role cliques play in shaping what they wear and say, how they
feel about school, how they respond to boys, and how they feel about themselves.
Enlivened with the voices of dozens of girls and parents and a welcome
sense of humor, Queen Bees and Wannabes is compelling reading for parents
and daughters alike. A conversation piece and a reference guide, it offers
the tools you need to help your daughter feel empowered and make smarter
choices. |
I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!: A New Understanding of
Mother-Daughter
Conflict
Roni Cohen, Phd Sandler, Michelle Sliver, Roni Cohen-Sandler, Michelle
Silver |
| Almost without exception, the teen years are tumultuous
for both girls and their mothers. Teen girls, who are socialized to stifle
their anger
and avoid confrontation, frequently take out their frustration on their
mothers as the only safe and available targets. The good news is that with
patience and the right guidance, mothers can transform the teenage years
into positive ones and enrich the mother- daughter relationship. The book
demonstrates how mother-daughter friction during adolescence, managed creatively,
empowers girls by teaching them invaluable skills and can even foster intimacy.
Discussion of social, emotional, cultural, and psychological issues is
interwoven with the voices of mothers and daughters in case studies that
are illuminating and reassuring. "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" provides
mothers with much-needed practical strategies to help their daughters grow
into emotionally healthy and capable adults. |
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Grief
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Helping Children Cope With the Loss of a Loved One: A Guide for Grownups
William C. Kroen, Pamela Espeland |
| Helping Children Cope with the Loss of a loved one, gives practical hands-on
advice on how to help children from infants to 18 through the grieving
process. Dr. Kroen explains how children at all ages and stages perceive
and react to death. |
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| Drug Abuse |
What’s
A Parent to DO?
Straight Talk on Drugs and Alcohol
Henry David Abraham, M.D. |
| Harvard-affiliated psychiatrist Henry David Abraham draws upon his work
with substance-abusing teens to lead parents in the discussion of drug
and alcohol abuse prevention with their children. Dr. Abraham provides “user
friendly” information on the red flags of abuse, prevention, terminology,
getting help, etc. |
Sex
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Beyond the Big Talk: Every Parent's Guide to Raising Sexually
Healthy
Teens From Middle School to High School and Beyond
Debra W. Haffner |
| Debra Haffner, a leading sexuality educator addresses teen issues from
physical development to peer pressure to youth culture, offering solid
advice and resources to parents, who will greatly appreciate her candor.
Beyond the Big Talk tackles issues such as peer pressure, alcohol and drugs,
sexual harassment, abstinence, dating, parties, and much more. Whether
discussing how to help kids deal with the onslaught of sexual messages
in the media or providing sensible guidance on the facts of life, Haffner's
values-oriented approach helps parents at a time when they have the most
difficulty talking with their children about sex. |
How
to Talk With Teens About Love, Relationships, & S-E-X:
A Guide for Parents
Amy G. Miron, Charles D. Miron, Ph.D |
| This candid guide covers everything you might ever want to discuss with
your teen about intimacy and sex. In more than two decades of working with
parents and teens, authors Amy and Charles Miron have heard and discussed
it all-from the things your kids probably have heard about to the things
you probably haven't. Openly, comfortably, without mincing words, they
share their expertise so you can be the expert your kids come to for answers. |
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Perfectionism
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The Trouble With Perfect : How Parents Can Avoid the
Overachievement
Trap and Still Raise Successful Children
Elisabeth Guthrie M.D., Kathy Matthews |
| Alarmed by the high numbers of unmotivated, burned-out
youngsters seeking her psychiatric treatment, Dr. Elisabeth Guthrie set
out to uncover not
just the sources of their distress but also the factors that drive parents
to pressure their children. Dr. Guthrie explores our confounding culture
of overachievement and takes a sympathetic look at the pervasive guilt
that accompanies raising children today. Helping parents discover the fine
line between good parenting and pressure parenting, Dr. Guthrie also cites
clear ways to address the guilt and societal issues that define the average
child (by definition the majority!) as "less-than-perfect" or
a “loser.” With tips for enhancing the development of every
child’s unique set of talents, the book is a vital reality check
for anyone concerned about what’s really best for kids. |
Freeing Our Families from Perfectionism
Thomas S. Greenspon |
| As parents, we influence our children's emotional development. The bad
news is, our own attitudes about love, acceptance, success, and failure
can create an environment that promotes perfectionism. The good news is,
we can make positive changes that will enrich our children's lives-and
our own. In this groundbreaking book, Tom Greenspon explains perfectionism,
where it comes from (including influences outside the family), and what
to do about it. He describes a healing process for transforming perfectionism
into healthy living practices and self-acceptance. If you think your child
may be a perfectionist-if you've ever wondered if you're a perfectionist-this
book is for you. |
